‘Stubborn’ – the realisation that we name and label to help describe what we see in the behaviours around us. So what does it say when we express something or someone as ‘stubborn’? And what light does it shed?
We engaged some interesting discussion around the feelings that arise from the use of the word stubborn. We looked at how we use the word, and how by determining what is behind the action or the reasons for them, whether it is actually accurate to call it ‘stubborn’.
Then of course, there was the talk around, what defines something as stubborn? Is it about the actual behaviour, or is it about our attitude about the behaviour that shapes the ‘naming of it’?
Anyway, it gave us lots to ponder. What does it bring up for you?
We hope you enjoy the diversity in the way these expressions arrived.
Feel free to comment or pass on for others to experience these short journeys.
The next week’s word is ‘artificial’
Hope to see you there.
Walking down from my home
Along well-trodden dusty tracks
Crossing dried out creek beds
That long for spitting raindrops
To fill their salty cracks
Brittle saltbushes cling
To soil weathered red.
On arrival at the Post office
That serves as the general store
I seek shelter in the shadow
On the southern facing wall
A Saturday morning vigil
I keep to meet my friend.
Flour, salt, drum tobacco and papers
His packs of Bex powders
His rations for the week ahead.
He keeps his own time
Arriving on his Chestnut
Quarter horse he’s bred
He’s a boundary rider
For a local sheep station spread
At no promised hour
Just when he arrives
Our greetings never more
Than a few polite words
Mine “Hugger”
His “Mate”
As he descends
From his saddle
Hands me the reins
I do my usual act
And pat the horses’ mane
I’m ten years old
I’m totally chuffed
Then I hear then see
Skeeter Johnston
And his gang
Have decided this week
To turn up
To play being tough
As usual they try
To give me a hard time
I take pride
In my ability
To ignore their stupidity
I keep patting the horse neck
Feeling good within myself
Hugger appears on the steps
And surveys a common sight
Showing distain with his eyes
He mounts his horse
Leans down and smiles
And takes the reins
From my childish hands
To cries of “Hugger the Bugger”
They chase his trotting horse
Throwing stones at his parting back
He leaves the town at a gallop
To a “Humpy” I have never been
Somewhere out beyond
The airport south
In a land to far
For my childish exploits
To reach and discover
His home in the scrub.
I never did find out
Who or why he lived
In such a nomadic way
I never knew at ten
That some men
Sought solitude
Above the need for normality
Perhaps he was just too stubborn
To set in his way to make friends.
PJR 13.02.2023
Come on Ned time for your walk
Lead on, down to the park
To have a run and a bit of a lark
Joe is so good to me
This way Ned – No! I will not
I’m going my way, so I just stop
Digging in my paws, not budging
Till Joe follows my trail
Off we go, there’s Molly
She greets me with a bark and a frolic
She sure is fit, not like me
As I sit to catch my breath
Oh look there’s Daisy
The most beautiful eyes and a coat like silk
I know she has those eyes on me
We will be an item one day, you wait and see
This way Ned as we head off home
I do enjoy Joe walking with me
Stubbornness can have its perks
For now a meal awaits
CCon 13th Feb 23
It is noticeable how
Words can be used
To give meaning
Or to abuse
Some words seem naturally positive
Unless used with a sarcastic tone
Others are often expressed to be negative
Whether at work or at home
One such word which can feel rather sudden
Is this word for immovable or resistant
Which comes hot from the brain oven
And often feels insufficient
If it were positive we would express
Determined, tenacious, persistent, resilient…
Which are often designed
To bring pride and encouragement
However when persistence or tenacity
Is not what we want
Then this inconvenience
Needs a bolder font
Here it comes
There is no discussion
It has to be said…
‘You are being STUBBORN’
(NRS)
I’m holding on
To all that was
Yet it feels so hard
What am I trying to do?
Why must I fight
What am I proving
What is it?
Why am I sticking with it
Because I said so?
How did I live my whole life
Stubbornly focused on sticking to my initial ‘commitment’?
Now there’s a clue
Perhaps it was that
That kept me blue
The ritual, the promise
Perfection, the hostage
Kept me blind
Not able to see
So locked in
Unable to be free
Stubborn, like a mule
Or like Lulu my dog
Dead weight like a log
Plonked on the road to stay cool
Or was it resilience
Persistence or brilliance
No matter which
Labels as tools
Are fools’ rules
Positive Or negative
Whichever the way
Beware how you sway
Because words, titles, and names
Can distort, guilt and shame
TLaB 13th Feb 23