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  • in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #10074
    Tricia La Bella

    A great night, with a few personal poems to begin: Peter, Lesly, Tricia and then the group prose of a wonderful discussion…
    Peace. 9.02.2021

    Within the forest of my mind
    I tread unsure of what I’ll find
    Feelings clash and fly around
    The winds of emotions crashing down.

    My thoughts scamper like dead leaves
    Rustling scuttling on the breeze
    The canopy above a solid shroud
    Not letting in any outside sound.

    No light penetrates my fog of gloom
    My tree of life of life whispers songs of doom
    The trunk solid strong and stout
    Hiding my shadows of self-doubt.

    Careful of where I’m stepping
    Avoiding twisted roots so deceiving
    My pathway seemingly endless
    Leaving me distraught and senseless.

    Tasting conflicts sour and disgusting
    Smelling turmoils foul and wrenching
    Leaves me lost in distortions
    Losing all sense of proportions.

    Sliding perilously down a slippery slope
    I catch my fall on a branch of hope
    Holding fast I stop my flight
    Giving me pause it’s time to fight.

    I force my way up and out
    Leaving the forest of self-doubt
    Picturing sun filled open meadows
    Full of light no more shadows.

    The warmth of the sun drenched sky
    Opening up my heart letting me cry
    Tears run and flow a river down my cheeks
    My breathing ragged, chest heaving, no longer weak.

    Joy and happiness rise and fly
    Released to forge a strong reply
    My time to feast now on a new accord
    Embrace my new path, my new reward.

    Using my strengths to turn the tide
    Bravery, hope, fairness and love be my guide
    For in this life we have each other
    My power rests in the peace I can discover.


    Oh! for a little peace and quiet,
    The peace and tranquillity of the morning light.
    When raising a family a Mother needs peace,
    Teachers try to bring a little peace to the class room.
    Is there peace after a stressful day?
    When studying peace and quiet is also needed
    Peace treaties are signed after war.

    Oh for a stressful free life and to give peace of mind.



    Why can’t there be peace?
    Or is there?
    What is peace?
    Peace – a moment of nothingness.

    A mind silent,
    A world silent,
    No distraction,
    No force.

    Not your way, not mine,
    Surrender to what is,
    To feel the nature of existence,
    No need for more.

    But can we, that’s the question,
    In amongst the noise,
    The petty, the small,
    The tall?

    We say it’s peace we want,
    But is it?
    Or is it to win?
    To have our way?

    To gloat / float?
    Stamp / ramp?
    Force / discourse?
    Fool / Pool?

    And move further away,
    From where it lies,
    All around us,
    Within our reach.

    Yet hidden from,
    our own eyes,
    Elusive yet possible,
    With just a breath,
    When we realise… we can.


    Peace 15th February
    So many words around peace
    Peace of mind
    If you get lost in your mind,
    You get lost in the proportions,
    You may not find the peace….

    There are things that may get in the way…
    may need a lot from yourself to reach it…

    There is always conflict within
    When we release it we can find peace

    So where do I find peace…
    some say peace is silence…

    When there is no noise no ambience – it is uncomfortable…. you can hear your own blood

    Will there ever be peace for all…..

    If there is a winner then there is a loser,

    Can there be a search for inner peace so it is available to all…

    Japanese gardens can help you feel at peace…

    I need nature to feel peace…
    peace comes from within…

    Even when I am not in a peaceful place…
    natural feeling of peace is within…

    Doing what feels good can create peace within…

    Once something is fixed you can feel peace afterwards

    Or you can have pain and peace sit side by side…

    All emotions live together – and in that is peace too….

    Peace can be a relief

    Listening to poetry can bring a feeling of peace…

    You can find peace in the country… the silence

    Phospheressence by Julia Baird, the natural noise – for wellbeing for peace…

    The peace of silence…. stillness, the natural sound – of birds

    Peace… is being comfortable,

    Finding peace when settled…
    peace when running… it’s a rhythm

    Rocking a baby can bring a rhythm of peace

    We all have our own word to describe the peace

    V the sign of peace
    V day, victory day

    Silence can be noisy…

    Silence may not always bring peace,
    blocking out harsh noise to hear the natural noise, then blocking out the natural noise to find the silence

    Silence to see, to see the bees,
    To see what you may not see when there is noise.

    As John Lennon said, ‘give peace a chance ‘

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9902
    Tricia La Bella

    Thanks Nigel and Peter for your poems…

    firstly Nigel

    What are habits?

    habits we do
    habits we wear
    good habits
    bad habits

    things we do often
    without thinking or pause
    without feeling or cause

    can we stop them?
    what if we did?
    the bad ones I mean…

    if they harm us or others
    can we admit?
    can we let them go?

    if we did
    they would no longer be
    a habit within me


    And thanks Peter…

    Settle down you lot,
    Many of you I forgot.
    We need to have a meeting,
    As it’s clarity I’m seeking.

    I’m aware of so many of you
    And for that care, I thank you.
    No questions of your intentions,
    You release me from my tensions.

    Some of you are in my core,
    Or returning unwelcome from before.
    Others are brand new,
    Thankfully they are few.

    So now is the time
    When I draw a line,
    Good habits line up on my right,
    On my left bad habits don’t fight.

    Born together, aware of others,
    You are my inner brothers,
    Deeply ingrained, colliding in my space,
    It’s time to give you all a face.

    I need to hear from each of you
    Tell me your stories and be true,
    I don’t want any disputes,
    I only want your attributes.

    From the moment I awake,
    You both strive to partake
    In my drive to survive,
    Another day staying alive.

    I’ve listened and accepted
    Both sides seem to be connected,
    Not the whole of who I can be,
    Only a part of becoming me.

    PJR 8.02.2021

    And now for the session outcome… just wonderful.
    A cow with OCD?

    Good habits shape your life

    There are some good and there are some bad

    What’s a good habit and what’s bad

    Habits change when you move from one place to another

    Lots of habits to carry out the day….

    Rituals for the day

    Patterns for the day –

    Habit or OCD

    What is the difference

    Is an OCD an overdeveloped habit

    Uncontrolled habit is that an OCD

    Unconscious habit

    When habits become rituals it feels an OCD

    Habits that get out of control can be a problem

    Routine or habit

    Tram – a routine

    Catching the tram is the routine

    Routine is more conscious – choosing it as part of your flow

    Habit when its unconscious – don’t need to think about it

    To make them conscious recognize them and give them a face…

    Sometimes I’m not aware that i was doing it…

    To notice means you can choose something differently

    Before it becomes a habit

    Habits are difficult to break

    Some habits are comforting

    Like twirling my hair

    What is that…

    It’s sensory… it feels good – it feels safe…

    Habits that feel comforting

    Familiarity… safety

    Nuns wear a habit… why call it a habit…

    A nun’s habit is a sign of poverty…. same outfit

    Harmful habits

    Smoking can harm us and others… and the environment

    It may be something we’ve done for years, before we knew it was harmful…

    As we become more aware…

    Break the habit…

    Can we?

    Can we break the habit?

    Is it laziness, is it awareness, is it belief,

    People take more notice of Facebook post than a scientific piece…

    global warming – waste management

    It can be

    Be firm with your habits…

    If not they can

    Habits are you servants…

    They either work for you or against you

    Are we becoming servants of our habits

    Or our habits our servants…

    How can we change habits of mind…

    Those habits can be destructive…

    Habit of negative thoughts

    Can you change mental habits…

    Train your self talk to change habits of talk…

    Habits of mind can create things…

    Animals are creatures of habit…

    Cows will go to be milked the same time every day…

    Cows know they have food waiting… they know how to survive…

    Birds waken the same time

    What drives that?

    They sense the same time each day…

    It’s not seasons… it’s a knowing

    Habits as innate knowings…

    How lovely – magpies visit same time each day… now they come for food, they are creating habits.

    What do you feed the birds… seeds (thanks Lesly)

    Our ability to change habits plays a role in our survival on the planet …

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9845
    Tricia La Bella

    1st February 2021

    thanks everyone, for the topic on decisions.
    thank you Kay, for your written expression that helped many of us…
    thank you Peter, another wonderful poem.
    Decisions, Decisions, Decisions.

    Time to consider my position
    Before I make my decision.
    To draw up my actions
    That will be a map of my reactions.

    A pause for introspection
    Looking for some direction,
    A chance for more choices,
    Options from other voices.

    Firmness in sticking to my purpose
    Delving deeper under the surface.
    Seeking, deliberating, determining
    A resolution from persevering.

    Strengthening my resolve
    To keep to my goals.
    Accepting, acknowledging, my fallibility
    Being persistent with my certainty.

    Feelings and emotions digested
    Thoughts diagnosed injected.
    Finding the right directives,
    Objective or subjective in perspective.

    Positive and negative outcomes weighed,
    My future course will be layered and made.
    If my decision is Yes, No or Maybe,
    This mystery will be left to history.

    PJR 22.01.2021

    And now for the expression from the session…

    Maybe is a time based concept… is maybe a decision?

    If you don’t make a decision – the decision may be made for you

    If you don’t make it in time… you may not ever get the chance to choose

    Maybe is a holding pattern…

    It is time based…

    It can be valuable or it might not be…

    Nigel at the Colonel Light, at Light Square looking towards Montefiore Hill..

    All about the squares….

    Victoria Square and Whitmore Square… yes that’s cafe outside the square!!

    That was Nigel’s decision – people may need to think outside the square… to make decisions…

    It’s the uncertainty of what the decisions bring…

    In organisations it’s about opportunity costs…

    If you choose A you can’t choose B, therefore there is a gain, there is a cost…

    There may be a risk either way…

    Choose with your heart… following your heart…

    The heart has an emotional attachment…
    the mind comes up with too many possibilities,

    People don’t expect you to use your heart in business…
    they may say naive but is it…

    The two can work together… the head and the heart…

    The consequences…

    Is this the right thing for me…

    Hard when you know it may let someone else down…

    Make a choice that helps you in life in some way…

    Don’t let it destroy you… the stewing

    Making decisions for others instead of yourself – can be negative…

    The outcome of choices that you feel is a wrong choice… when you don’t let go… can lead to regret…

    Sometimes we are stuck with our choices… and please be with it until you can make another decision down the track…

    Accept we sometimes make decisions, that we can’t turn back…

    Within a decision are other decisions and choices that can make the first decision feel not so bad…

    When emotional intelligence is low… sometimes it can affect choices

    Growing and expressing and learning can always happen at another time… there is hope

    You can actually go back on your decision – when your heart was burning for something different – thanks Kay for the stroy

    Not the choice of others… yours – it’s not about them.

    When you act on it – it feels euphoric – so good to have made the decision…

    Be happy and confident with your choices…

    When we are at a ‘cross’ road… let’s change it to a ‘happy’ road

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9750
    Tricia La Bella

    18th January 2021
    the topic of listening… thank you Peter, another beautiful and meaningful poem…


    To lose your mind and all you know
    Listen to your senses let them flow
    It’s to open up so you can grow
    All around nature calls out to you
    Sharing their voices of endless beauty
    To lose your mind and all you know
    Creates your inner voice
    Let it be the music of your choice
    It’s to open up so you can grow
    Follow the sounds in your heart
    For in that world you can start
    To lose your mind and all you know
    So that silence is greeted as a friend
    Not feared or filled with imagined dread
    It’s to open up so you can grow
    Listen with your whole body
    So you can connect with anybody
    To lose your mind and all you know
    It’s to open up so you can grow

    Now for the expression from the whole group on the evening… WOW! just amazing how much richness is expressed.

    We can listen in silence

    Many people are afraid of silence
    They don’t like to have the silence
    They fill the spaces…

    Silence in your own mind…
    Don’t fear not having a thought…
    We somehow feel comfortable to be busy… we wan to have a solution in our mind…

    Sometimes we just want to empty our mind…

    To be comfortable in silence

    Why is it so hard?

    Can we let thoughts flow through us…

    Holding a scene in silence as an actor, is a sign of a good actor

    Depth of silence – how powerful

    Just sit and let it be

    No clues in silence… Agh! we want clues –

    Human want to know…

    Writing while listening can capture the essence but do you? if you are writing while someone is speaking – can you really capture it?

    Can you listen, really hear when you are distracted by doing other things like writing ?

    When you listen you are paying attention ?

    To listen is to listen with your heart

    I’m sensing what is being said…

    I can sense tone, expression, feel the intention,

    It’s not what is said… it’s what is being felt, what do they mean?

    Silence gives people the space to express… slowly –

    That is kindness – giving people the time.

    Sometimes I don’t say something because I don’t want to waste people’s time.

    We can’t rush it!

    people need to speak in their own time,

    Don’t fill the gaps for people… don’t repeat the question, don’t jump in…

    People just want the space…

    I learn a lot through listening – because I wouldn’t otherwise know or have the opportunity to learn.

    Sometimes it takes a while to get a message out,

    The meaning of the message can be in the response it gets… how others receive it.

    What you say brings things, you don’t even know are there.

    Listening is delicate… the more in rapport, the closer you get to the edge of their meaning….

    You can’t get it all in a small disclosure…

    How often do we switch off and not got any part of the message….

    Often we are in our minds – listening to that so we can’t listen to others…

    Frontline… make fun of current affair with listening as nodding – now that’s listening – haha… I’m nodding now!

    Listen with whole body…

    With the eyes, the eyes tell you what state they are in when they listening

    Look into the eyes… some people feel uncomfortable to do it…

    When i talk i don’t look at people –

    How do you listen to yourself? I look up…

    The eyes are a give away…

    The eyes are the gateway to the soul….

    How you look into the eyes makes a difference

    Eyes that flutter may mean something – Oh no! My eyes flutter….

    The voice… a clue to what is being said…

    Can you hear it? What do you hear…

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9716
    Tricia La Bella

    Soul connection 11th January 2021
    Thank you Peter, an amazing poem on soul connection: Here it is:

    The beauty of a soul connection

    They lay entwined, asleep.
    Warmth of their contentment deep
    Serenity, comfort, at peace
    Thoughts, emotions finding release.
    The love they are sharing
    Is beyond just simply caring.

    When alone each is insecure
    When together feelings come true.
    No jagged edges to be smoothed
    All doubts and fears are removed.
    Vulnerability, differences laid open
    Wounds, memories, trust spoken.

    Needs, wants, unfulfilled expectations
    No reason for explanations.
    Accepting words of self-loathing
    Deep down a mutual understanding.
    Tears, turmoil, survival
    Forgiveness that has no rival.

    Like water freezing in high winds grow
    Twisted together, threads just so
    Combining, unified in oneness
    Soul mates in natures’ closeness.
    So is the power of our connecting with another
    Enjoying the warmth and beauty of each other.

    Soul connection, a summary of the expression from the group on 11 January, 2021

    Thanks Kay, sharing your story of caring… true caring from the soul…

    Soul connection

    Peter your poem on soul connection is moving…

    What is the soul connection?
    You just merge into one…
    there is an understanding… deep understanding

    We often move from the vulnerability

    Yet as soul mates we just fit…

    There’s a trust… emotional sharing and giving
    No questions…

    Women having coffee together – the rapport of 2 individuals as one…

    Safety in giving and sharing…

    Soul connection – it’s an inner knowing – a pull

    It just there…

    This power of soul is bigger than the usual rules…

    Intuitive and inner knowing

    An ease with it…

    It’s a comfort – it’s not trying – it’s just there.

    No working at it…

    It’s not about being polite, you just want it and feel it..

    At peace…

    For some it’s hard.

    “I have trouble trusting and putting myself out there. There’s turmoil with walls around me… I put up a happy face, but that is not what I’m really feeling….”

    Can you find your soul mate… when you’ve been let down…

    My daughter is my soul mate…

    It’s wonderful to have that with someone…

    She is a beautiful soul…

    Because she attracts anybody, animals…

    What is that?

    Is that energy – an energy of acceptance…

    A depth of accepting of who you are, draws others in…

    They love humanity… and people and animals know.

    A oneness… a connection.

    Addicted to life….

    Drawn to something…

    What is the soul…

    The expression – I sold my soul to the devil…

    Given the self away for something in return…

    The soul – the spiritual or immaterial part of the person or animal considered to be immortal…

    The religious side… the soul goes back to the universe…

    Past lives… the soul returns…

    It’s great to have a purpose for living…

    Souls have a reason to be all they are in this life…

    The soul is important and cared for…

    The matrix – it’s about purpose

    Soulful, expressing soulful feelings…

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9508
    Tricia La Bella

    Monday 14th December Wind…
    We had a couple of poems written this week, and drew upon Bob Dylan’s word around ‘The answer my friend, is blowing in the wind, the answer is blowing in the wind’. Here is our group creation, followed by the other poems and lyrics…

    the wind

    Thanks Peter for the poem about the wind

    So much that wind brings

    The senses the taste fo the wind, the smell the feel

    It brings so much in its silence

    It brings emotion it brings memories

    It reminds me of a time in a small plane

    Remember the turbulence

    We all remember one of those

    Bob Dylan’s words about the wind

    It helped me wonder… just like the wind

    Bob Dylan.. people not seeing.. just like the wind…

    Change is in the wind

    Change is constant

    The wind… it has power

    Renewable energy… it’s doing good things

    It has purpose…

    Nature – the wind is passin through… Thanks Kay

    When there is no wind – it is so still

    Playing tennis… it really affects my serve!

    Without wind you can’t sail…

    The wind can affect my game…

    The wind can be annoying…

    Riding into a head wind… I like to tack the wind…

    Fire and wind….

    Earth Wind and Fire…

    The elements ….

    I don’t like gusty windy days… it gives me asthma…

    With dust pollen

    Wind a friend or a foe…

    The fire storm feasted on the wind… thanks Peter for these words…

    Marilyn Monroe and the candle in the wind…

    The wind Marilyn’s signature…

    Is there such thing as horizontal rain?

    The wind if strong enough – it can be horizontal rain….

    Westerly come in horizontal…

    Sand storms too, damage by the wind

    Sand can get in anywhere…
    The wind seems to have a mind of its own…

    Para sailing and hang gliders… the wind is great… but what happens when the wind fails you

    The weather is something you have no control over.. the wind is part of the weather… and it can let us down…

    Wind – pressure….have you ever had wind…

    Bob Dylan, ‘Blowing in the wind’
    How many roads must a man walk down
    Before you call him a man?
    How many seas must a white dove sail
    Before she sleeps in the sand?
    Yes, ‘n’ how many times must the cannon balls fly
    Before they’re forever banned?
    The answer, my friend, is blowin’ in the wind
    The answer is blowin’ in the wind
    Yes, ‘n’ how many years can a mountain exist
    Before it is washed to the sea?
    Yes, ‘n’ how many years can some people exist
    Before they’re allowed to be free?
    Yes, ‘n’ how many times can a man turn his head
    And pretend that he just doesn’t see?
    The answer, my friend, is blowin’ in the wind
    The answer is blowin’ in the wind
    Yes, ‘n’ how many times must…

    Tricia’s poem…
    The wind of change…
    difficult to hear
    The swirl,
    Exposed to the unknown
    the fear…

    The stir in us… but
    I love stillness,
    I feel the build up
    To what…
    To life – the energy of reality

    Blown away
    To where
    To where I need to go
    To flow and dance
    With what is
    To the mystery of letting go

    Feel it, revel in it, let it take me to the outskirts
    The horizon of life
    breathe out, blow it out
    Like a candle in the wind…

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9451
    Tricia La Bella

    The future… 7th December – Thanks Peter, Pip, Lesly, Nigel…

    The future – breaking up by Billie (lyrics at end)

    Billie Eillish is looking to the future

    Her future self

    Are we always looking to the future,

    It’s the only direction we have to move

    The future is the only place that we can engage in

    The future is where the hope is…

    Leo Tolstoy Future love does not exist – love is a present activity only.

    The man who does not manifest love Int he present has not love.

    Triggers in the now – take us to the past…

    So what is the future – it is a dream…

    What is the moment – a state

    A flow – like when you write

    An idea turns into something

    Where it’s not yours any more – it’s totally in the moment

    Planning as a future – when the future arrives

    You may miss it…

    Future is planning…

    future is sensing…

    Future is an oppourtunity

    How do we balance planing the future and living the moment?

    Going with the flow –

    It’s circular

    It’s a bit of the past and a bit of the future

    Being aware that I’m not in my moment reminds me to do some mindfulness

    Takes me to now…

    Time in non linear – it’s circular

    We’re always trying to sort time…

    Why is that?

    Language shapes your reality

    And language is linear…

    Indigenous language has no right or left,

    Yet they know what direction they are facing

    Breaking the cycle of linear….

    To communicate and translate

    The language people use in poetry

    Is the power…

    The expression…

    The language

    The metaphor

    The story

    To write and express is for yourself…

    What ever you want to say that’s OK

    pip mentioned Arrival

    How many movies are there that mess with past to change the future…

    Especially science fiction..

    Do we really think we have any control of the future?

    Leslie went off for a minute thinking about the future… and the past

    Busy day, a foot massage…

    Not the feet!!

    Now’s she’s pooped and missed the moment

    Having a dream for the future has kept Lesly going

    In Covid we looked forward to the future to cope with the present…

    Dreams are reliving a past thought and memory

    Wants and needs can drive the future

    Is it possible to live in the now?

    Is the now a reality? Interstellar! Agh….

    Writing in poetry can bring the now…

    The now is not the future… it’s a state …

    The patterns of going to the future

    Getting into a state – can be good because it feels good and the moments in the future can be recalled

    Meyer quote – you remember how people make you feel

    I can be sad in the moment and cry About it

    The future i can talk about the sadness but I don’t feel it the same way…

    Pain… we are blessed that pain doesn’t stick with us

    The moment is the breath between the past and the future

    All we have is a breath…

    My Future
    Billie Eilish
    I can’t seem to focus
    And you don’t seem to notice
    I’m not here
    I’m just a mirror
    You check your complexion
    To find your reflection’s all alone
    I had to go
    Can’t you hear me?
    I’m not comin’ home
    Do you understand?
    I’ve changed my plans
    ‘Cause I, I’m in love
    With my future
    Can’t wait to meet her
    And I, I’m in love
    But not with anybody else
    Just wanna get to know myself
    I know supposedly I’m lonely now (lonely now)
    Know I’m supposed to be unhappy
    Without someone (someone)
    But aren’t I someone? (Aren’t I someone? Yeah)
    I’d (I’d) like to be your answer (be your answer)
    ‘Cause you’re so handsome (You’re so handsome)
    But I know better
    Than to drive you home
    ‘Cause you’d invite me in
    And I’d be yours again

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9374
    Tricia La Bella

    The Crown… 30th November 2020
    Wow Kay love the tiara…
    Gloves pearls and all…
    that is very elegant.

    Royalty monarchy the crown…

    Her majesty OK Kay…

    I would not like to be born into royalty…

    Pomp and ceremony

    They don’t show emotions –

    The queen mother does, she smiles and shows emotions

    She shows her humanity

    Can the queen be real… or be all she really is when she has such a public image?

    Margaret was second in line and that may have been a good thing.

    Royalty – people who belong to a king and queen

    Nobility…how much power does the queen have…
    Is she ruled by parliament?

    The interest around queens

    Mary Queen of Scotts

    The Crown the symbol of power

    The gems – the emeralds

    Expression – we were treated like royalty

    After watching the crown it would be good if Australia becomes a republic

    Is it an obsolete phenomena?

    There’s so much inequality… wealth in just a few.

    Yet it may have kept things stable in parliant

    Thank you Nigel the Japanese Gardens

    Now that looks noble…

    the crown, the Netflix series, the casino, the crown chakra….

    The direct line to wisdom?

    The tradition of the monarchy

    The celebrity status of the royals

    The paparazzi… they can’t seem to escape it

    Princess Di was concerned with people…
    she may not have met the pomp and ceremony…

    She was more about the people…

    The headlines… all around the royals

    The infatuation…
    the media.

    Princess Mary of Denmark…

    A fantasy…

    A fantasy wedding… Pip watched it at 8 years of age!!! videoed it… VHS

    It’s like Disney

    We believe in the fairy tale…

    Frozen… Elsa becomes queen. That was a big moment for Disney.

    Fiona becomes queen in Shrek…

    Royals now can have love matches… not just who is in line…

    Arranged marriages – where there is no love…

    Boundaries changing… scandals – affairs…

    Any publicity is publicity… Donald Trump Aghhhh

    Netflix – it s a whole new world

    Isn’t that a song…

    It is not Queen Elisabeth Hospital – it’s the Calvary

    No crown there…but we hope Kay gets treated like a queen tomorrow at the Calvary…

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9367
    Tricia La Bella

    23rd November – 3 days into lockdown and then told we can come out of it… a roller coaster of emotions…

    Here it is… the topic ‘Feelings’

    I just want to express feelings just as they are

    I actually felt relief with lockdown because it brought me a break


    It was time for a pause – that’s helped me –

    I was anxious…

    We had done so well with coronavirus and then the fear of what was ahead…

    Panic buying…

    Tension in the air…

    The fear of is too quick to return to ‘normal’?

    We had adjusted – then we had to switch –

    We just did it though – we’re adjusting quicker

    We’ve done it well in Adelaide

    it’s nice to express

    It’s good to express for our health

    If we express it, we get the chance to see it for what it is –

    We can then look at it for what it is…

    Vietnam war memorial – thanks Nigel for your roving reporting

    Remember the feeling about what the troops and what they felt

    And then there’s Afghanistan

    What was happening there? In Afghanistan…

    Many acts that we now know weren’t good – that’s created many challenging feelings –

    The cover up…

    Non expression

    What do people do with feelings that can’t be expressed

    No-one likes a whistle blower

    It takes courage to speak up when there are things that need to be expressed…

    Can you say this is wrong because that’s what you feel and then be treated unjustly?

    If we suppress our emotions it can cause grief…

    It’s not always easy to express – culturally it may be challenging

    On social media about expression for mental health

    And that can help

    Demystifying males and expression and toxic masculinity

    Modelling can be the way…

    Our politicians are not transparent – is it time for honesty…

    Have you seen the Crown on Netflix?

    The queen was told to be a bit more human and from the heart…

    yes even the queen…

    Make it personal

    It’s time to really connect

    That’s what really counts

    That feels great… sincere…

    It’s good to be honest

    Kay’s OCD so dropping in could cause some difficult feelings…

    We yearn for feelings…

    watching Netflix together as a group can be fun

    Please don’t tell us the end of the story – it might hurt our feelings…

    Playing games…. Nice feelings…

    I’ll only let you know what I want you to know

    But not the deep feelings

    I know the deep ones are there but I don’t go there…

    Sharing our experiences in life can be helpful…

    How did you feel Nigel with all those expiation notices…

    Unloading… telling the truth can lighten the load

    Don’t want to offend or hurt anyone… so often don’t say

    We may even put ourselves at risk – and yet we harm ourselves…

    Perhaps it’s better to get it out…..

    If you express something – perhaps start with ‘ I don’t want you to fix it or solve it… I just want to express it…’

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #9082
    Tricia La Bella

    Connection 26th October, 2020

    We have connection! (from the hospital room!)

    No internet… but we can still connect

    Thanks Nigel… visiting with wifi.

    It’s lovely to be able to connect with others

    Being in hospital with no visitors, connecting on online is lovely

    We need to connect

    Connection means joining the dots…

    And I didn’t –

    Personal connections

    Emotional connections

    Good connections in relationships make a difference… friendships.

    Internet connection is not great tonight

    Connections are so important

    So much happens in the connection

    Safety, feeling appreciated, good for the soul,

    It’s good for our health and wellbeing

    We know someone is there for us and that feels good

    Connection can be a realisation

    The connection with yourself

    When you meditate you can connect with yourself more

    It can save you – discover something is not right

    You can connect with your emotions

    I connected with my anger – I got angry with myself- I got it out.

    Reconnections and realisations

    Sometime I feel a connection with others like a de Javi

    Connections and nature

    Facebook is meant to be about connections – and yet it doesn’t feel like connection

    It’s a virtual world – it’s not real…

    People are living in the virtual world taking up lots of the time of day…

    It’s noise – a facade – it’s busy nonsense

    Can we learn to connect on social media better?

    The technology while it connects – has brought disconnection

    It was nice to reconnect with dad after his passing

    The roses were the connection to his death – a beautiful reminder

    Connection With pets…

    Dogs have a sense of connection – they know who to connect with and who you are

    The dogs looked after the girls , she rounded up cows – she was beautiful

    What is that connection?

    It makes you feel good…

    People go to Kays classes because they love the social connection

    Social contagion – the natural spread of emotions – positive ones feel great

    Covid separated us and the lack of connection caused lots of distress

    Especially when there was no touching – cuddling grandchildren – we felt disconnected…

    I like doing jigsaw puzzles because I like it when the pieces connect

    So many connections with connections…

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #8819
    Tricia La Bella

    Angry 12th October 2020

    We could have got angry over technology tonight

    I get angry when technology doesn’t work

    Kay is not angry – she just accepted the fact she couldn’t get on for tonight’s session

    When things don’t turn out, I get angry

    Perhaps frustration first then anger

    What makes you angry?


    I don’t argue but I feel anger

    I don’t show it but I feel it inside

    I have been angry with my life

    Now I don’t want to waste my time and life with anger

    The journey to anger is frustration

    With unnecessary rules, injustice,

    Some drivers on the road, doing stupid things,

    Now I see it differently – I don’t feel so angry

    With serious things going on in the world its better to focus on things that need attention

    Not silly things

    I get angry when things are unfair

    I try not to waste energy if I can’t control it

    I now focus on the big picture –

    I often shoot my mouth off in a spurt but then it dissipates…

    Some people don’t get angry

    They don’t notice others
    They may not care…

    I get angry when people have to be right

    With narcissists….

    Anger is when people are bitter…

    Mums cupboards full of blankets!

    Men? I don’t know what makes me angry…

    I don’t show my anger.

    Tantrums some people do tantrums…

    Can you control anger?

    I go silent… I think about how to express it…

    My daughter shouts… I leave it and once it calms down, I begin a conversation

    Is it OK to feel anger

    What is it?

    It’s not the anger – it’s the expression of anger

    Some Shout, hit, or are passive…

    I’ve found to express it – how I feel – gets it out

    If not it doesn’t go away…

    Not the anger, the intensity… more about how it is shown

    The face says it all

    We are not taught how to express anger…
    Kids are told to shut it down

    To suppress it

    We don’t know how to get it out – we are not encouraged to get it out

    There are only 2 things fear and love

    Any emotion comes back to love and fear…

    Honesty is part of it…

    We find it hard to be honest and express

    Often we get shut down… and that stops it

    Anger is Ok

    It’s OK to be angry

    Greta Thunberg could have said she was upset…
    Instead she got up and showed she was angry
    And that lead people to listen…
    anger was channeled into an emotional statement that was received and made a difference…

    Let’s help our kids release the anger

    In an effective way.

    Tone can tell us the state of anger

    Some people are sensitive to tone

    A look

    Can be threatening to someone else

    Do we give people the space to be angry?

    If it is imposed it is difficult…

    If I don’t express my anger I just get sad

    Sadness can lead to depression

    We are meant to express

    Watching someone watching the computer instead of communicating… makes me angry

    Time wasting for me… Is relaxation for others… Perhaps I should change my attitude… it’s a difference in values

    I could just join in…
    Or jump on every screen in the house and then what???

    Great suggestion Gloria…

    Often people say ‘don’t get angry with me’

    To warn them, so that they are prepared…

    Express your anger..

    If you can’t take a tablet, just jump on one…

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #8630
    Tricia La Bella

    Another thank you to the group, sharing your views on
    Vulnerability 5th October 2020

    Running through the back streets getting home when we were younger – we were vulnerable…

    We had rules when we were younger to avoid being vulnerable…

    A lot of people feel vulnerable walking down Hindley Street…

    Why is it?

    I feel vulnerable anywhere, why?

    I don’t feel safe…

    Is feeling vulnerable a good thing or not a good thing?

    When I travel alone I feel vulnerable – safety is first…

    It’s OK to feel vulnerable,

    I felt vulnerable when I showed my grief about my dog. It showed others more about myself, how I truly felt.

    Showing emotions can make us feel vulnerable…

    Especially when we are being perceived as strong.

    I don’t want to show emotions as I’d feel embarrassed…

    I like to put on a brave face…

    That may be how I was brought up…

    When you are a creative it can bring vulnerability.

    We may hide what is really happening…

    People say get over things… so you don’t show what is really happening.

    Vulnerability is actually putting yourself first… and being able to express it…

    How nice to be able to say ‘I am missing my dog… and how I truly feel’

    It’s nice to be able to trust someone to share…

    Whether we like it or not we are vulnerable…

    Showing it is not a weakness – it is a strength.

    We are human, it’s OK to be scared and to say it.

    Resilience is about hiding what you feel,

    Vulnerability is sharing what is important to you

    What kind of things can you be vulnerable about:

    Health, we are all vulnerable with coronavirus

    Sharing can open up ideas and things that help and that can protect you also…

    So look for your tribe who you feel safe with… are compassionate

    nowadays we show our vulnerability to move away from perfection and the unachievable,

    It’s important for children to see that teachers show they are infallible

    For leaders, Daniel Andrews to admit his mistakes, showed he is infallible…

    Let’s let go of the pretence, the facade,

    When you share truthfully and express things, we actually get to know the real you.

    You show the human side and that is heart warming

    We are actually all the same…

    In some way we are all vulnerable

    I can see the vulnerability in others and that helps me with own vulnerability

    Someone is always worse off than me…

    Vulnerability our truth, being prepared to show it,

    Thanks Nigel for the tour of Hindley Street, facing your vulnerabilities

    Sometimes, we are pressured to uphold the expectations and show we perfect

    It’s not even true…. on social media

    Crafted impressions –

    It’s an illusion – a delusion –

    So who are we fooling?

    No one can ever know what is real, when we don’t show what is real…

    So why hide, why not showcase it as it is…

    Perfect is the habit…

    Better to admit the flaw the mistake?

    Spend more time being true, authentic

    Not showcasing everything…

    Like running down Hindley Street naked. What?

    The extreme…

    Will you still like me?

    What is that needing to be liked…

    Our dreams may show us what we may fear… what we don’t want to show –

    is it that we fear that others may not like us?

    It may be an assumption that people won’t like things about us.

    Is it true?

    Letting it out, the real, can be part of freedom….

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #8297
    Tricia La Bella

    Authority 21st September 2020

    Lesly gave me authority to get into her tablet on Saturday… A good way to start.
    Authority definition:
    The power to give orders, make decisions and enforce obedience…
    that sounds harsh and archaic.

    Traditional authority
    Charismatic authority – some say like Hitler, Jesus Napoleon (it may mean they get what they want because of their charisma – Oh dear… intention for good that might ok but if not, there’s disaster… )
    Rational authority
    Competence authority

    There’s a bit there to explore…

    Command, control, power or how you can sway things…

    Sway what…

    Government have authority to lock people down during covid… a negative right.
    It’s part of the constitutional right.
    We give government this power and it can surface in emergencies…

    Authority feels top down
    What does authority mean?

    It seems when someone is the expert
    Sometimes in management they have responsibility and are held in account over, yet they haven’t been given the authority

    Under someone’s authority can feel harsh especially when you’re being micro managed…

    Is it being in charge?
    Or leading?

    Is authoritarian about my way or the highway…

    We don’t want to have this approach as teachers.

    is power necessary for authority…
    power many be need to enforce authority,
    By police, the army

    Sometimes people power over but don’t have the authority

    Someone with a gun…

    It may not be right…

    Having power can cause problems

    when someone else wants the power…

    It can create ill feelings –

    If something is forced upon for the right reasons, is it about power? Or is it about something else?

    if you have authority can you change how it looks and feels… so it is reflects your good intention

    Perhaps you include and engage others to have them feel part of the authority

    Sorry police officer, have I done something wrong?
    Authority can make me feel that way…

    I might have authority but authority for what?

    Depends on your role.

    Author is the first part of the word…
    I wonder where the ‘ity’ came from?

    Trump has the authority to push a button…
    he hasn’t been give the authority by the world…

    This must be power not authority.

    How do you feel when you say the word authority…

    My first reaction when I see someone in uniform… the image of the uniform

    Movies portrayed the uniform officer… as you’ve done something wrong

    it doesn’t feel like caring…


    We allow people to do something on someone’s behalf

    You can be given authority
    You can hand over authority…

    That’s about trust…
    Aunty Lesly trusted me…


    Perhaps it’s the style…

    Approach is relevant.

    Can we be fooled by those who command authority that they have authority…

    We may need to take more note of who we give authority to.

    reputation can be affected

    Wills… when you hand over authority it can bring out the worse in us…

    Sometimes authority can bring the worst in us…
    some abuse authority

    it can be daunting…
    It can be scary at times

    There is beautiful authority…
    a good leader of authority

    What was once authority can be seen as harassment – police could march kids home… not that would be harassment

    No longer thank you to police…
    no longer thank you to those enforcing the rules, our leader

    Time has changed…

    So who has the authority?

    It can change a workplace, a city, a country, a world..

    So don’t just hand it over…

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #8110
    Tricia La Bella

    Charity 14th September 2020
    Charity begins at home
    What does that mean?
    Instead of giving to others
    It’s about giving to yourself

    Or it’s about learning it at home
    Being kind at home first
    Being generous

    Charity is about assisting those in need
    Taking care of people close to you

    And taking care of you so you can care for others

    Is charity about donations?
    How are you charitable?
    Helping others out,
    With your time,
    With your words
    With services
    Being a volunteer

    Charitable to be kind to others
    Giving people your time
    Everybody – especially with those who are often not listened to

    Charity is unconditional…

    I gave time to my 90 year old Neighbourhood,

    That is a true charitable action

    For Nothing in return

    From the heart,
    Where people appreciate

    When it is from the heart it feels like true charity

    Giving to your Neighbour

    Let’s look after our Neighbours

    It’s not just giving to a charity

    It’s not just about the money

    It’s kindness without any expectation in return

    Often people don’t want charity

    They prefer kindness

    Is there a negative associated with charity, charities

    Don’t use charities for an intention not from the heart –

    Nigel is being charitable by showing us around Adelaide

    It’s sad if a charity doesn’t give from the heart

    Did you know that sometimes only 5% is given to the cause

    Some charities get funding to do the work of government


    Perhaps charities should feed the gap not be the service

    Not tackle the big issues…

    Charities for kindness rather than serving the role that is much needed by the community

    Voluntarily giving help to those in need

    How do you feel when you help?

    I feel good to help and it gives me purpose

    It’s mutual – no hierarchy – reciprocity

    I’d rather say it’s two way

    Let’s reciprocate

    This word has had a lot of attention tonight…

    The feel good in the give and receive…

    It’s easy to hand over money – yet the help is what is needed

    The love of helping

    The reward of feedback that someone is grateful and appreciative..

    Kay’s ladies can now move better from the exercise – now that has made her smile – the give and receive

    When you receive gratitude it keeps you giving

    We will need more charitable acts after Covid as people will be in a struggle and maybe even traumatized

    When you are kind, others see kindness, feel kindness and may even ripple kindness to others.

    What you say and what you do, needs to be aligned

    If there is a gap between the walk and talk, it doesn’t feel charitable – it doesn’t feel authentic


    If there’s no connection it doesn’t feel like charity

    Would you rather give or receive?

    in reply to: Poetry Expression on line zoom #8099
    Tricia La Bella

    7th September 2020

    To be born and die…
    To be part of the balance of the planet…
    To evolve and thrive…
    To go beyond survive…

    Purpose, is it more or less
    than who we are
    Than what we do
    Than what we bring

    The council has a purpose
    Dog registration
    They are not listening to what matters
    Purpose or compassion

    We all have a purpose
    It’s important to repurpose
    The purpose of life is a life of purpose

    People bring gifts to others
    Our pets can bring love and unite others

    purpose is to give love and to receive love
    Especially in these times..

    When we miss someone, we realize our purpose is love

    People want to have purpose
    Covid has shown how people want to help

    With knit a care square, people want to help others keep warm

    When we lose our purpose, then what…
    Purpose can change…
    Life situations can change our purpose…

    Some times our purpose is to help others

    Sometimes our purpose is to keep things light
    Like Nigel talking to the ducks…
    Was it Donald and Daisy

    Purpose now to look forward to a better life

    Purpose is to not look back…
    find your purpose as you move forward

    What we believe strongly brings purpose

    Passion for something brings purpose

    To use all of who we are, to bring to that to others – is our purpose

    So what does purpose mean?

    Sometimes we receive from what others bring – their purpose is for us, as our purpose is for them

    Live your life on purpose – intentionally

    Cause of death is being born…
    we sometimes look too hard for our purpose
    Rather than feel it and flow with life

    Life purpose changes
    Now it is for a heart shaped world…
    To bring love…

    I don’t like it when someone says… What is the purpose of your call?

    It sounds quite calculated…

    Takes away from softness… quite controlling and direct

    Sometimes you have to ask what is the purpose when there are so many spam calls.

    There the harshness may be needed.

    Stating your purpose intention reason resolve determination objective rationale…

    Tone can make a difference
    Sometimes we over use the word
    And the real meaning is lost

    Overusing the word purpose or other words, when used for everything – it doesn’t seem authentic

    What words indicate purpose

    When people give you the why… they are sharing their purpose

    It’s internal its a feeling
    You don’t need to explain to someone what your purpose is

    You shine it naturally

    others see it naturally

    Others can see your purpose without you realizing that

    Others can say that’s what you do, that’s what you bring, that’s how you shine…

    Back to the point.. just what you bring

    Others know what you bring… they can predict that behaviour because of how they see you, what they believe about you…

    Is that an assumption? It may or may not be what you see as your purpose….

    Your purpose your inner knowing

    Live your life on purpose…

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