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- Mon-24-Aug-20 at 4:10 pm #7783
Tricia La Bella
ParticipantIt was lovely having the beautiful music to Memories in the background as we spoke about memories. Lots of interesting themes arrived from this session.
Memories
Bad memories
Floods and firesWhat memories stand out?
Strong memories
I remember People came to helpMemories are strong
…I don’t remember!
I can go back to when I’m 3
Do you remember?How do we remember?
Why do we remember?
A photograph helps me remember
when I see something it triggers a memory
I remember food
I have an emotional memory
I remember when there are emotions
How do I know where I put things?
It needs to have impact for me to remember
Memories of fashion – it’s hilarious
Memories are subjective
We all recall things differently
We might all remember it differently
One see it sad one sees it happy in the same moment
So what is real
I don’t remember when I was shut down
I don’t remember things when it was a difficult time
It’s good to get to deep memories to heal
Memories can be emotional healing to heal and move
i just went back. Into a memory right now
Memories… the song
songs trigger memories
Although I do remember the words – I feel good when I remember
Music brings me back
Let’s twist again has a memory – I had a broken arm and nearly knocked some out while dancing – a funny memory
Don’t try to remember too hard,relax and your subconscious can remember
Senses are involved with memories
Small and taste helps me remember
Conscious memory and subconscious memory
I love the smell of pancakes – it reminds me of my mother
Old movies connect e to my mum
We avoid bad memories – we keep them in our subconscious
We block bad memories because they make us sad
Do we?
Sometimes the bad memories go over And over
So shutting down is best
acceptance can lead to balance the memories
There are good memories too
Writing the bad memories
Use them as a gratitude and to learn from them
Different stages of the memory
Bad memory – moving from the feeling to the learning – then comes the gratitude
Every bad memory can bring something wonderful too
We can celebrate our memories when we transform them
Things that happen to us we can help others
We have experience that can help us to understand
learning from the memories can help lead to forgiveness
What you have been through can help you connect with others
How do we remember our 3 year old memories
I pick and choose my memories
The ones i like i make them stories – fiction
Mimi swatch – if you don’t want to remember, choose which you wish to share
Some reshape the memory and sometimes we share it as we want it to be
Is that delusion?
Distortion?
even through a photo that we all see, we see it differently
We all have a different memory attached
So best thing is to have a best moment
An old reunion – did this really happen when we were at school?
How does imagination fit in with memories?
Did I imagine it?
Dreaming can confuse reality
Do dreams create memories
Or are your dreams memories in disguise
Some dreams stay some go quickly
Often I can’t remember dreams
Da ja vu – I have a memory before it happens
where have you seen from
Is it a memory in the brain
Is a memory when it hasn’t happened yet
It feels like a memory yet it hasn’t happened
Past life memories
You feel or know you have met someone when you actually happened
Is that a memory or is that a past life
A memory of your past life or someone else’s life
In organ transplant you take on the memories of others
How does that happen
Organs feel the senses and are stored
Memories are stored in the cells
Muscles have memories
My muscles know when I haven’t walked for a while
My pain has a memory
A pain memory
It takes you back
Like child birthing
Rebirthing can take you back to the pain
Hypnosis takes you back to memories
You have to be willing to go to the memories
before we die, we see our life pass us by
The memories of the life flashes before us when we die
Memory is in between fact and imagination
Mon-24-Aug-20 at 4:11 pm #7784Tricia La Bella
ParticipantThis was another great topic. I love how we shape the final line to bring it all together. Lovely…
BelongingSense of belonging
Where people know who you are
Do they know you
It is a sense a feeling of belonging
Sometimes we don’t feel like we belongWhy
It is a connection
But even with connection I don’t always feel like I belong
Inclusiveness
What happens if you don’t fit
Whose responsibility is it?
I know when I feel like I belong
i was existing but not belonging
Belonging has helped me express
I feel so much better now I can express
Belonging isbeinnng able to be me
To just listen
And be part of it
And bounce off
Finding your tribe
Being there even if they don’t understand just being there
What’s the key to belonging
Building relationships
It takes time
When we belong we can achieve things
Belonging takes time
We need to belong as humans
If not we feel helpless and useless
Belonging is more than belonging in a group
It is true interest and caring
It is about expanding your world
To belong
It comes with vulnerability
It is effort and you’re doing it
It’s exposure
The only way is doing it
Overcoming vulnerability to build a sense of belonging
To overcome vulnerability
Courage
Bravery
A supportive environment
Sometimes persistence
Can you disagree and still belong
Perhaps a different philosophy
Perhaps a different mission
Perhaps it doesn’t feel right
It may tell you that you don’t belong
It may not be right
What you feel matters
Being yourself matters
Being open and real matters
Being real matters
Not pretending – not a facade – being you
Body language tone tells you – gives you clues
Ask yourself – do I want to belong ?
What about belongings??
Things that belong to you
Importantly belong to yourself
Mon-24-Aug-20 at 6:52 pm #7785Tricia La Bella
ParticipantMonday 24th August 2020 Time – and it was certainly a wonderful time sharing this topic with the group.
We can use time in many ways
Just what is time?
Everything that ever has been or will be, can only happen now
Time we can not recapture
So if there is something to do, do it now because you can’t recapture
Everything we do we are going into the future opening the gate into the future
Closing the gate to the pastIs now now, or is it the past’s future or the future of the past?
Can we go back in time, or forward in time,
Is it an illusion?
Natural time is based on the cycle of days and seasons
What do we do when we wait – is that a waste of time?
Time is a constant for all of us
What we do in the moment is our opportunity
I can be miserable in moments or I can enjoy those moments
Looking back somehow makes it feel better
It helps us time to grieveIf you have nice moments, when its the end of someone’s time, it can feel so much better
How much nicer to say it is the end of our time…
We can choose what we do with our time
We do have a choice
Have lovely things to do so if you are waiting you have some other way to make the most of your time
Take the time for who is special in your life
Find the time
Valuable time, so their is no regret.
I don’t like to say I don’t have time.
I can choose to make time,
When it is the natural time to do so.
If you could have 1 word to associate with time what would it bePrecious, breath, moment and now.
What is a phrase for time
Time is unfrozen fun
Be your best in all times
Do it now because you can
Live in the nowHow conscious are we of time?
When we choose we can have more momentsAppreciation of our time
Breath is a symbol of time on earth
Respect time, our own and othersExpression about time
Real time…
Where has the time gone
Haven’t got time
Make the most of my timeI’m fascinated by time
Sometimes an hour feels like a day,
And sometimes it feels like a minuteWhere does time go?
Time as stored memoryWhen you are passionate about something
Time flysI seem to lose time when I’m doing what I love
During Covid19, time in lockdown feels like an eternity!
Or abandoned in a city away from home, away from friends and family. Away from mum.
That time can feel so long.
It may be a test on how to use the time differently.
What does it mean when we say – give me a second, just a minute – and it’s not!
We push time or force things to happen in time
Can we just feel time?
When we feel time, we are actually feeling momentsWhen we feel time, we are actually feeling moments and being in our life
Time a tunnel of eternal possibilities
So let’s choose to make the most of our timeMon-31-Aug-20 at 7:01 pm #8081Tricia La Bella
ParticipantThanks everyone for your contribution to the topic of FREEDOM
FreedomI’m free because I could have been locked up!
For having a voice…
Please don’t park in front of my house.
I got cross… freedom to express…
So what does freedom feel like..
You don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone.
Freedom to do lots of things
Freedom of speech
Free to choose
Freedom to love
Freedom to express
Free to travel over the rainbow
Freedom at the end of the rainbow
What is the feeling of freedom
Not being hemmed in
Without restriction
When I get my knee done, I will have the freedom to move
To do as we want
Is freedom a privilege
Is it a right
We all have freedom but we don’t realize we have it
We are restrained without realizing
For me freedom is time for myself with myself
Just as I want it
As I’m free my day is longer
It is not duty or busy
It is passion so I can really be in it… freedom
Can you have freedom in the usual routine
Can you choose to do it differently
Freedom is when time is your own
Why do you think you have to do things that take away from your freedom
Letting the bird out of the cage… freedom
Free as a bird…
What is your cage?Can we choose a little bit of freedom…
In some ways we are free, and some ways not
Independence… freedom
Ultimate freedom – for me to be able to get up and walk and do what I want and where I want to go…
Freedom to choose, within our cage…
What is your cage?
My house, my body, busyness, my own limitations, my fear, my habits, my overwhelm, my mind… fear of standing up and not letting go
Might need to open the cage a bit and face it, just a little step…
Breaking the cycle …
There is freedom within that..
What can I do… look for freedom somehow
I can’t go in the garden but I can smell the roses…
What do you want to be more free to do?
Free from house hold chores…
So I can have more time for me…
Sometimes it is not that easy…
Freedom is simply to choose
I have freedom
Create your freedom in what you are in
What drives it…
Deep want – the will –
What is the limitation – money, voice?
How do you create with the limitation…
Or do we walk away from the limitation…
Can we choose.
Can we?
Financial freedom – if only I had more money..
Freedom for me is feeling. It lies within me…
If freedom is the feeling…. does it need money?
What does feeling free feel like?
It is the breeze on your skin…
listening to the birds,
The simple things in life…
free to see, smell, hear, feel.Free spirited…
It is our bodies, minds, spirits, hearts,
That’s where our freedom lies,
It’s our vehicle…
Poor Horacio, Truffles, Oliver, Augusta,
Are they free?
Dear pigs in the Rundle Mall, no longer free to roam…
Mon-07-Sep-20 at 7:15 pm #8099Tricia La Bella
Participant7th September 2020
PurposeTo be born and die…
To be part of the balance of the planet…
To evolve and thrive…
To go beyond survive…Purpose, is it more or less
than who we are
Than what we do
Than what we bringThe council has a purpose
Dog registration
They are not listening to what matters
Purpose or compassionWe all have a purpose
It’s important to repurpose
The purpose of life is a life of purposePeople bring gifts to others
Our pets can bring love and unite otherspurpose is to give love and to receive love
Especially in these times..When we miss someone, we realize our purpose is love
People want to have purpose
Covid has shown how people want to helpWith knit a care square, people want to help others keep warm
When we lose our purpose, then what…
Purpose can change…
Life situations can change our purpose…Some times our purpose is to help others
Sometimes our purpose is to keep things light
Like Nigel talking to the ducks…
Was it Donald and DaisyPurpose now to look forward to a better life
Purpose is to not look back…
find your purpose as you move forwardWhat we believe strongly brings purpose
Passion for something brings purpose
To use all of who we are, to bring to that to others – is our purpose
So what does purpose mean?
Sometimes we receive from what others bring – their purpose is for us, as our purpose is for them
Live your life on purpose – intentionally
Cause of death is being born…
we sometimes look too hard for our purpose
Rather than feel it and flow with lifeLife purpose changes
Now it is for a heart shaped world…
To bring love…I don’t like it when someone says… What is the purpose of your call?
It sounds quite calculated…
Takes away from softness… quite controlling and direct
Sometimes you have to ask what is the purpose when there are so many spam calls.
There the harshness may be needed.
Stating your purpose intention reason resolve determination objective rationale…
Tone can make a difference
Sometimes we over use the word
And the real meaning is lostOverusing the word purpose or other words, when used for everything – it doesn’t seem authentic
What words indicate purpose
When people give you the why… they are sharing their purpose
It’s internal its a feeling
You don’t need to explain to someone what your purpose isYou shine it naturally
others see it naturally
Others can see your purpose without you realizing that
Others can say that’s what you do, that’s what you bring, that’s how you shine…
Back to the point.. just what you bring
Others know what you bring… they can predict that behaviour because of how they see you, what they believe about you…
Is that an assumption? It may or may not be what you see as your purpose….
Your purpose your inner knowing
Live your life on purpose…
Mon-14-Sep-20 at 6:57 pm #8110Tricia La Bella
ParticipantCharity 14th September 2020
Charity begins at home
What does that mean?
Instead of giving to others
It’s about giving to yourselfOr it’s about learning it at home
Being kind at home first
Being generousCharity is about assisting those in need
Taking care of people close to youAnd taking care of you so you can care for others
Is charity about donations?
How are you charitable?
Helping others out,
With your time,
With your words
With services
Being a volunteerCharitable to be kind to others
Giving people your time
Everybody – especially with those who are often not listened toCharity is unconditional…
I gave time to my 90 year old Neighbourhood,
That is a true charitable action
For Nothing in return
From the heart,
Where people appreciateWhen it is from the heart it feels like true charity
Giving to your Neighbour
Let’s look after our Neighbours
It’s not just giving to a charity
It’s not just about the money
It’s kindness without any expectation in return
Often people don’t want charity
They prefer kindness
Is there a negative associated with charity, charities
Don’t use charities for an intention not from the heart –
Nigel is being charitable by showing us around Adelaide
It’s sad if a charity doesn’t give from the heart
Did you know that sometimes only 5% is given to the cause
Some charities get funding to do the work of government
Really?
Perhaps charities should feed the gap not be the service
Not tackle the big issues…
Charities for kindness rather than serving the role that is much needed by the community
Voluntarily giving help to those in need
How do you feel when you help?
I feel good to help and it gives me purpose
It’s mutual – no hierarchy – reciprocity
I’d rather say it’s two way
Reciprocal
Let’s reciprocateThis word has had a lot of attention tonight…
The feel good in the give and receive…
It’s easy to hand over money – yet the help is what is needed
The love of helping
The reward of feedback that someone is grateful and appreciative..
Kay’s ladies can now move better from the exercise – now that has made her smile – the give and receive
When you receive gratitude it keeps you giving
We will need more charitable acts after Covid as people will be in a struggle and maybe even traumatized
When you are kind, others see kindness, feel kindness and may even ripple kindness to others.
What you say and what you do, needs to be aligned
If there is a gap between the walk and talk, it doesn’t feel charitable – it doesn’t feel authentic
Connection
If there’s no connection it doesn’t feel like charity
Would you rather give or receive?
Mon-21-Sep-20 at 7:15 pm #8297Tricia La Bella
ParticipantAuthority 21st September 2020
Lesly gave me authority to get into her tablet on Saturday… A good way to start.
Authority definition:
The power to give orders, make decisions and enforce obedience…
that sounds harsh and archaic.Traditional authority
Charismatic authority – some say like Hitler, Jesus Napoleon (it may mean they get what they want because of their charisma – Oh dear… intention for good that might ok but if not, there’s disaster… )
Rational authority
Competence authorityThere’s a bit there to explore…
Command, control, power or how you can sway things…
Sway what…
Government have authority to lock people down during covid… a negative right.
It’s part of the constitutional right.
We give government this power and it can surface in emergencies…Authority feels top down
What does authority mean?It seems when someone is the expert
Sometimes in management they have responsibility and are held in account over, yet they haven’t been given the authorityUnder someone’s authority can feel harsh especially when you’re being micro managed…
Is it being in charge?
Or leading?Is authoritarian about my way or the highway…
We don’t want to have this approach as teachers.
is power necessary for authority…
power many be need to enforce authority,
By police, the armySometimes people power over but don’t have the authority
Someone with a gun…
It may not be right…
Having power can cause problems
when someone else wants the power…
It can create ill feelings –
If something is forced upon for the right reasons, is it about power? Or is it about something else?
if you have authority can you change how it looks and feels… so it is reflects your good intention
Perhaps you include and engage others to have them feel part of the authority
Sorry police officer, have I done something wrong?
Authority can make me feel that way…I might have authority but authority for what?
Depends on your role.
Author is the first part of the word…
I wonder where the ‘ity’ came from?Trump has the authority to push a button…
he hasn’t been give the authority by the world…This must be power not authority.
How do you feel when you say the word authority…
My first reaction when I see someone in uniform… the image of the uniform
Movies portrayed the uniform officer… as you’ve done something wrong
it doesn’t feel like caring…
Authorize.
We allow people to do something on someone’s behalf
You can be given authority
You can hand over authority…That’s about trust…
Aunty Lesly trusted me…Why?
Perhaps it’s the style…
Approach is relevant.
Can we be fooled by those who command authority that they have authority…
We may need to take more note of who we give authority to.
reputation can be affected
Wills… when you hand over authority it can bring out the worse in us…
Sometimes authority can bring the worst in us…
some abuse authorityit can be daunting…
It can be scary at timesThere is beautiful authority…
a good leader of authorityWhat was once authority can be seen as harassment – police could march kids home… not that would be harassment
No longer thank you to police…
no longer thank you to those enforcing the rules, our leaderTime has changed…
So who has the authority?
It can change a workplace, a city, a country, a world..
So don’t just hand it over…
Mon-05-Oct-20 at 7:55 pm #8630Tricia La Bella
ParticipantAnother thank you to the group, sharing your views on
Vulnerability 5th October 2020Running through the back streets getting home when we were younger – we were vulnerable…
We had rules when we were younger to avoid being vulnerable…
A lot of people feel vulnerable walking down Hindley Street…
Why is it?
I feel vulnerable anywhere, why?
I don’t feel safe…
Is feeling vulnerable a good thing or not a good thing?
When I travel alone I feel vulnerable – safety is first…
It’s OK to feel vulnerable,
I felt vulnerable when I showed my grief about my dog. It showed others more about myself, how I truly felt.
Showing emotions can make us feel vulnerable…
Especially when we are being perceived as strong.
I don’t want to show emotions as I’d feel embarrassed…
I like to put on a brave face…
That may be how I was brought up…
When you are a creative it can bring vulnerability.
We may hide what is really happening…
People say get over things… so you don’t show what is really happening.
Vulnerability is actually putting yourself first… and being able to express it…
How nice to be able to say ‘I am missing my dog… and how I truly feel’
It’s nice to be able to trust someone to share…
Whether we like it or not we are vulnerable…
Showing it is not a weakness – it is a strength.
We are human, it’s OK to be scared and to say it.
Resilience is about hiding what you feel,
Vulnerability is sharing what is important to you
What kind of things can you be vulnerable about:
Health, we are all vulnerable with coronavirus
Financial
Identity
Physical
Psychological
EmotionalSharing can open up ideas and things that help and that can protect you also…
So look for your tribe who you feel safe with… are compassionate
nowadays we show our vulnerability to move away from perfection and the unachievable,
It’s important for children to see that teachers show they are infallible
For leaders, Daniel Andrews to admit his mistakes, showed he is infallible…
Let’s let go of the pretence, the facade,
When you share truthfully and express things, we actually get to know the real you.
You show the human side and that is heart warming
We are actually all the same…
In some way we are all vulnerable
I can see the vulnerability in others and that helps me with own vulnerability
Someone is always worse off than me…
Vulnerability our truth, being prepared to show it,
Thanks Nigel for the tour of Hindley Street, facing your vulnerabilities
Sometimes, we are pressured to uphold the expectations and show we perfect
It’s not even true…. on social media
Crafted impressions –
It’s an illusion – a delusion –
So who are we fooling?
No one can ever know what is real, when we don’t show what is real…
So why hide, why not showcase it as it is…
Perfect is the habit…
Better to admit the flaw the mistake?
Spend more time being true, authentic
Not showcasing everything…
Like running down Hindley Street naked. What?
The extreme…
Will you still like me?
What is that needing to be liked…
Our dreams may show us what we may fear… what we don’t want to show –
is it that we fear that others may not like us?
It may be an assumption that people won’t like things about us.
Is it true?
Letting it out, the real, can be part of freedom….
Mon-12-Oct-20 at 7:12 pm #8819Tricia La Bella
ParticipantAngry 12th October 2020
We could have got angry over technology tonight
I get angry when technology doesn’t work
Kay is not angry – she just accepted the fact she couldn’t get on for tonight’s session
When things don’t turn out, I get angry
Perhaps frustration first then anger
What makes you angry?
Injustices
I don’t argue but I feel anger
I don’t show it but I feel it inside
I have been angry with my life
Now I don’t want to waste my time and life with anger
The journey to anger is frustration
With unnecessary rules, injustice,
Some drivers on the road, doing stupid things,
Now I see it differently – I don’t feel so angry
With serious things going on in the world its better to focus on things that need attention
Not silly things
I get angry when things are unfair
I try not to waste energy if I can’t control it
I now focus on the big picture –
I often shoot my mouth off in a spurt but then it dissipates…
Some people don’t get angry
They don’t notice others
They may not care…I get angry when people have to be right
With narcissists….
Anger is when people are bitter…
Mums cupboards full of blankets!
Men? I don’t know what makes me angry…
I don’t show my anger.
Tantrums some people do tantrums…
Can you control anger?
I go silent… I think about how to express it…
My daughter shouts… I leave it and once it calms down, I begin a conversation
Is it OK to feel anger
What is it?
It’s not the anger – it’s the expression of anger
Some Shout, hit, or are passive…
I’ve found to express it – how I feel – gets it out
If not it doesn’t go away…
Not the anger, the intensity… more about how it is shown
The face says it all
We are not taught how to express anger…
Kids are told to shut it downTo suppress it
We don’t know how to get it out – we are not encouraged to get it out
There are only 2 things fear and love
Any emotion comes back to love and fear…
Honesty is part of it…
We find it hard to be honest and express
Often we get shut down… and that stops it
Anger is Ok
It’s OK to be angry
Greta Thunberg could have said she was upset…
Instead she got up and showed she was angry
And that lead people to listen…
anger was channeled into an emotional statement that was received and made a difference…Let’s help our kids release the anger
In an effective way.
Tone can tell us the state of anger
Some people are sensitive to tone
A look
Can be threatening to someone else
Do we give people the space to be angry?
If it is imposed it is difficult…
If I don’t express my anger I just get sad
Sadness can lead to depression
We are meant to express
Watching someone watching the computer instead of communicating… makes me angry
Time wasting for me… Is relaxation for others… Perhaps I should change my attitude… it’s a difference in values
I could just join in…
Or jump on every screen in the house and then what???Great suggestion Gloria…
Often people say ‘don’t get angry with me’
To warn them, so that they are prepared…
Express your anger..
If you can’t take a tablet, just jump on one…
Mon-26-Oct-20 at 7:00 pm #9082Tricia La Bella
ParticipantConnection 26th October, 2020
We have connection! (from the hospital room!)
No internet… but we can still connect
Thanks Nigel… visiting with wifi.
It’s lovely to be able to connect with others
Being in hospital with no visitors, connecting on online is lovely
We need to connect
Connection means joining the dots…
And I didn’t –
Personal connections
Emotional connections
Good connections in relationships make a difference… friendships.
Internet connection is not great tonight
Connections are so important
So much happens in the connection
Safety, feeling appreciated, good for the soul,
It’s good for our health and wellbeing
We know someone is there for us and that feels good
Connection can be a realisation
The connection with yourself
When you meditate you can connect with yourself more
It can save you – discover something is not right
You can connect with your emotions
I connected with my anger – I got angry with myself- I got it out.
Reconnections and realisations
Sometime I feel a connection with others like a de Javi
Connections and nature
Facebook is meant to be about connections – and yet it doesn’t feel like connection
It’s a virtual world – it’s not real…
People are living in the virtual world taking up lots of the time of day…
It’s noise – a facade – it’s busy nonsense
Can we learn to connect on social media better?
The technology while it connects – has brought disconnection
It was nice to reconnect with dad after his passing
The roses were the connection to his death – a beautiful reminder
Connection With pets…
Dogs have a sense of connection – they know who to connect with and who you are
The dogs looked after the girls , she rounded up cows – she was beautiful
What is that connection?
It makes you feel good…
People go to Kays classes because they love the social connection
Social contagion – the natural spread of emotions – positive ones feel great
Covid separated us and the lack of connection caused lots of distress
Especially when there was no touching – cuddling grandchildren – we felt disconnected…
I like doing jigsaw puzzles because I like it when the pieces connect
So many connections with connections…
Mon-23-Nov-20 at 7:28 pm #9367Tricia La Bella
Participant23rd November – 3 days into lockdown and then told we can come out of it… a roller coaster of emotions…
Here it is… the topic ‘Feelings’
FeelingsI just want to express feelings just as they are
I actually felt relief with lockdown because it brought me a break
Initially…
It was time for a pause – that’s helped me –
I was anxious…
We had done so well with coronavirus and then the fear of what was ahead…
Panic buying…
Tension in the air…
The fear of is too quick to return to ‘normal’?
We had adjusted – then we had to switch –
We just did it though – we’re adjusting quicker
We’ve done it well in Adelaide
it’s nice to express
It’s good to express for our health
If we express it, we get the chance to see it for what it is –
We can then look at it for what it is…
Vietnam war memorial – thanks Nigel for your roving reporting
Remember the feeling about what the troops and what they felt
And then there’s Afghanistan
What was happening there? In Afghanistan…
Many acts that we now know weren’t good – that’s created many challenging feelings –
The cover up…
Non expression
What do people do with feelings that can’t be expressed
No-one likes a whistle blower
It takes courage to speak up when there are things that need to be expressed…
Can you say this is wrong because that’s what you feel and then be treated unjustly?
If we suppress our emotions it can cause grief…
It’s not always easy to express – culturally it may be challenging
On social media about expression for mental health
And that can help
Demystifying males and expression and toxic masculinity
Modelling can be the way…
Our politicians are not transparent – is it time for honesty…
Have you seen the Crown on Netflix?
The queen was told to be a bit more human and from the heart…
yes even the queen…
Make it personal
It’s time to really connect
That’s what really counts
That feels great… sincere…
It’s good to be honest
Kay’s OCD so dropping in could cause some difficult feelings…
We yearn for feelings…
watching Netflix together as a group can be fun
Please don’t tell us the end of the story – it might hurt our feelings…
Playing games…. Nice feelings…
I’ll only let you know what I want you to know
But not the deep feelings
I know the deep ones are there but I don’t go there…
Sharing our experiences in life can be helpful…
How did you feel Nigel with all those expiation notices…
Unloading… telling the truth can lighten the load
Don’t want to offend or hurt anyone… so often don’t say
We may even put ourselves at risk – and yet we harm ourselves…
Perhaps it’s better to get it out…..
If you express something – perhaps start with ‘ I don’t want you to fix it or solve it… I just want to express it…’
Mon-30-Nov-20 at 7:42 pm #9374Tricia La Bella
ParticipantThe Crown… 30th November 2020
Wow Kay love the tiara…
Gloves pearls and all…
that is very elegant.Royalty monarchy the crown…
Her majesty OK Kay…
I would not like to be born into royalty…
Pomp and ceremony
They don’t show emotions –
The queen mother does, she smiles and shows emotions
She shows her humanity
Can the queen be real… or be all she really is when she has such a public image?
Margaret was second in line and that may have been a good thing.
Royalty – people who belong to a king and queen
Nobility…how much power does the queen have…
Is she ruled by parliament?The interest around queens
Mary Queen of Scotts
The Crown the symbol of power
The gems – the emeralds
Expression – we were treated like royalty
After watching the crown it would be good if Australia becomes a republic
Is it an obsolete phenomena?
There’s so much inequality… wealth in just a few.
Yet it may have kept things stable in parliant
Thank you Nigel the Japanese Gardens
Now that looks noble…
the crown, the Netflix series, the casino, the crown chakra….
The direct line to wisdom?
The tradition of the monarchy
The celebrity status of the royals
The paparazzi… they can’t seem to escape it
Princess Di was concerned with people…
she may not have met the pomp and ceremony…She was more about the people…
The headlines… all around the royals
The infatuation…
the media.Princess Mary of Denmark…
A fantasy…
A fantasy wedding… Pip watched it at 8 years of age!!! videoed it… VHS
It’s like Disney
We believe in the fairy tale…
Frozen… Elsa becomes queen. That was a big moment for Disney.
Fiona becomes queen in Shrek…
Royals now can have love matches… not just who is in line…
Arranged marriages – where there is no love…
Boundaries changing… scandals – affairs…
Any publicity is publicity… Donald Trump Aghhhh
Netflix – it s a whole new world
Isn’t that a song…
It is not Queen Elisabeth Hospital – it’s the Calvary
No crown there…but we hope Kay gets treated like a queen tomorrow at the Calvary…
Mon-07-Dec-20 at 7:25 pm #9451Tricia La Bella
ParticipantThe future… 7th December – Thanks Peter, Pip, Lesly, Nigel…
The future – breaking up by Billie (lyrics at end)
Billie Eillish is looking to the future
Her future self
Are we always looking to the future,
It’s the only direction we have to move
The future is the only place that we can engage in
The future is where the hope is…
Leo Tolstoy Future love does not exist – love is a present activity only.
The man who does not manifest love Int he present has not love.
Triggers in the now – take us to the past…
So what is the future – it is a dream…
What is the moment – a state
A flow – like when you write
An idea turns into something
Where it’s not yours any more – it’s totally in the moment
Planning as a future – when the future arrives
You may miss it…
Future is planning…
future is sensing…
Future is an oppourtunity
How do we balance planing the future and living the moment?
Going with the flow –
It’s circular
It’s a bit of the past and a bit of the future
Being aware that I’m not in my moment reminds me to do some mindfulness
Takes me to now…
Time in non linear – it’s circular
We’re always trying to sort time…
Why is that?
Language shapes your reality
And language is linear…
Indigenous language has no right or left,
Yet they know what direction they are facing
Breaking the cycle of linear….
To communicate and translate
The language people use in poetry
Is the power…
The expression…
The language
The metaphor
The story
To write and express is for yourself…
What ever you want to say that’s OK
pip mentioned Arrival
How many movies are there that mess with past to change the future…
Especially science fiction..
Do we really think we have any control of the future?
Leslie went off for a minute thinking about the future… and the past
Busy day, a foot massage…
Not the feet!!
Now’s she’s pooped and missed the moment
Having a dream for the future has kept Lesly going
In Covid we looked forward to the future to cope with the present…
Dreams are reliving a past thought and memory
Wants and needs can drive the future
Is it possible to live in the now?
Is the now a reality? Interstellar! Agh….
Writing in poetry can bring the now…
The now is not the future… it’s a state …
The patterns of going to the future
Getting into a state – can be good because it feels good and the moments in the future can be recalled
Meyer quote – you remember how people make you feel
I can be sad in the moment and cry About it
The future i can talk about the sadness but I don’t feel it the same way…
Pain… we are blessed that pain doesn’t stick with us
The moment is the breath between the past and the future
All we have is a breath…
Lyrics
My Future
Billie Eilish
I can’t seem to focus
And you don’t seem to notice
I’m not here
I’m just a mirror
You check your complexion
To find your reflection’s all alone
I had to go
Can’t you hear me?
I’m not comin’ home
Do you understand?
I’ve changed my plans
‘Cause I, I’m in love
With my future
Can’t wait to meet her
And I, I’m in love
But not with anybody else
Just wanna get to know myself
I know supposedly I’m lonely now (lonely now)
Know I’m supposed to be unhappy
Without someone (someone)
But aren’t I someone? (Aren’t I someone? Yeah)
I’d (I’d) like to be your answer (be your answer)
‘Cause you’re so handsome (You’re so handsome)
[Pre-Chorus]
But I know better
Than to drive you home
‘Cause you’d invite me in
And I’d be yours againWed-16-Dec-20 at 10:26 am #9508Tricia La Bella
ParticipantMonday 14th December Wind…
We had a couple of poems written this week, and drew upon Bob Dylan’s word around ‘The answer my friend, is blowing in the wind, the answer is blowing in the wind’. Here is our group creation, followed by the other poems and lyrics…the wind
Thanks Peter for the poem about the wind
So much that wind brings
The senses the taste fo the wind, the smell the feel
It brings so much in its silence
It brings emotion it brings memories
It reminds me of a time in a small plane
Remember the turbulence
We all remember one of those
Bob Dylan’s words about the wind
It helped me wonder… just like the wind
Bob Dylan.. people not seeing.. just like the wind…
Change is in the wind
Change is constant
The wind… it has power
Renewable energy… it’s doing good things
It has purpose…
Nature – the wind is passin through… Thanks Kay
When there is no wind – it is so still
Playing tennis… it really affects my serve!
Without wind you can’t sail…
The wind can affect my game…
The wind can be annoying…
Riding into a head wind… I like to tack the wind…
Fire and wind….
Earth Wind and Fire…
The elements ….
I don’t like gusty windy days… it gives me asthma…
With dust pollen
Wind a friend or a foe…
The fire storm feasted on the wind… thanks Peter for these words…
Marilyn Monroe and the candle in the wind…
The wind Marilyn’s signature…
Is there such thing as horizontal rain?
The wind if strong enough – it can be horizontal rain….
Westerly come in horizontal…
Sand storms too, damage by the wind
Sand can get in anywhere…
The wind seems to have a mind of its own…Para sailing and hang gliders… the wind is great… but what happens when the wind fails you
The weather is something you have no control over.. the wind is part of the weather… and it can let us down…
Wind – pressure….have you ever had wind…
Bob Dylan, ‘Blowing in the wind’
How many roads must a man walk down
Before you call him a man?
How many seas must a white dove sail
Before she sleeps in the sand?
Yes, ‘n’ how many times must the cannon balls fly
Before they’re forever banned?
The answer, my friend, is blowin’ in the wind
The answer is blowin’ in the wind
Yes, ‘n’ how many years can a mountain exist
Before it is washed to the sea?
Yes, ‘n’ how many years can some people exist
Before they’re allowed to be free?
Yes, ‘n’ how many times can a man turn his head
And pretend that he just doesn’t see?
The answer, my friend, is blowin’ in the wind
The answer is blowin’ in the wind
Yes, ‘n’ how many times must…Tricia’s poem…
The wind of change…
difficult to hear
The swirl,
Exposed to the unknown
the fear…The stir in us… but
I love stillness,
I feel the build up
To what…
To life – the energy of realityBlown away
To where
To where I need to go
To flow and dance
With what is
To the mystery of letting goFeel it, revel in it, let it take me to the outskirts
The horizon of life
breathe out, blow it out
Like a candle in the wind…Mon-11-Jan-21 at 8:57 pm #9716Tricia La Bella
ParticipantSoul connection 11th January 2021
Thank you Peter, an amazing poem on soul connection: Here it is:The beauty of a soul connection
They lay entwined, asleep.
Warmth of their contentment deep
Serenity, comfort, at peace
Thoughts, emotions finding release.
The love they are sharing
Is beyond just simply caring.When alone each is insecure
When together feelings come true.
No jagged edges to be smoothed
All doubts and fears are removed.
Vulnerability, differences laid open
Wounds, memories, trust spoken.Needs, wants, unfulfilled expectations
No reason for explanations.
Accepting words of self-loathing
Deep down a mutual understanding.
Tears, turmoil, survival
Forgiveness that has no rival.Like water freezing in high winds grow
Twisted together, threads just so
Combining, unified in oneness
Soul mates in natures’ closeness.
So is the power of our connecting with another
Enjoying the warmth and beauty of each other.Soul connection, a summary of the expression from the group on 11 January, 2021
Thanks Kay, sharing your story of caring… true caring from the soul…
Soul connection
Peter your poem on soul connection is moving…
What is the soul connection?
You just merge into one…
there is an understanding… deep understandingWe often move from the vulnerability
Yet as soul mates we just fit…
There’s a trust… emotional sharing and giving
No questions…Women having coffee together – the rapport of 2 individuals as one…
Safety in giving and sharing…
Soul connection – it’s an inner knowing – a pull
It just there…
This power of soul is bigger than the usual rules…
Intuitive and inner knowing
An ease with it…
It’s a comfort – it’s not trying – it’s just there.
No working at it…
It’s not about being polite, you just want it and feel it..
At peace…
For some it’s hard.
“I have trouble trusting and putting myself out there. There’s turmoil with walls around me… I put up a happy face, but that is not what I’m really feeling….”
Can you find your soul mate… when you’ve been let down…
My daughter is my soul mate…
It’s wonderful to have that with someone…
She is a beautiful soul…
Because she attracts anybody, animals…
What is that?
Is that energy – an energy of acceptance…
A depth of accepting of who you are, draws others in…
They love humanity… and people and animals know.
A oneness… a connection.
Addicted to life….
Drawn to something…
What is the soul…
The expression – I sold my soul to the devil…
Given the self away for something in return…
The soul – the spiritual or immaterial part of the person or animal considered to be immortal…
The religious side… the soul goes back to the universe…
Past lives… the soul returns…
It’s great to have a purpose for living…
Souls have a reason to be all they are in this life…
The soul is important and cared for…
The matrix – it’s about purpose
Soulful, expressing soulful feelings…
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